Thank you Scott & Sandra. What you shared was so important & so meaningful. Strange that I never thought about grief as being physical until reading this article. But then I recalled reoccurring memories I have of a very wonderful being, a horse, WhiteStar. I had him on my farm for 23 years. I owned both his parents & was with him the moment he was born. When some of my memories of WhiteStar flood in, the grief I feel is so intense & now I realize so very physical! It grabs my chest & my heart. Before tonight, I had no where to put this intense grief. But now you've shown me a simple & very powerful tool... I'm going to write letters ... lots of letters to WhiteStar to tell him how much I love him and how grateful I am to have had him in my life. Journaling my thoughts & feelings ... what a relief! I no longer have to suppress my grief and emotion! I can write letters & journal it. Thank you so very much. Barbara
Barbara you are most welcome, it warms my heart that I was able to help you. Yes, grief sits very strongly in our body. A phrase I often tell my clients is
You can’t think your way out of grief.
Journaling and writing letters to WhiteStar is one of the ways you can move that stuck energy. Dont hold back, and remember your writing doesn’t have to be perfect, write what you feel, not what you think.
I’m not sure if you have ever heard about the book- The body keep scores, Bessel van der Kolk. He goes into a lot of detail, if this is a subject you would like to know more about.
Hi Sandra-Lynne, I apologize it's taken me so long to respond to your wonderful message. I am in the process of moving while ending a relationship of 8 years. One of those situations that's complicated while being very simple all at the same time. Sad, but very much the right thing to do to end our relationship as a couple. We'll remain friends. We were always able to do that. The break up is actually truly good for both of us as individuals. So... as you can "see" I've been a bit distracted.
But I very much want you to know that your advice has been Huge for me. It continues to be impactful already across a number of areas in my life.
And, I ordered that book by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.. More good stuff there thanks!
Thank you Scott & Sandra. What you shared was so important & so meaningful. Strange that I never thought about grief as being physical until reading this article. But then I recalled reoccurring memories I have of a very wonderful being, a horse, WhiteStar. I had him on my farm for 23 years. I owned both his parents & was with him the moment he was born. When some of my memories of WhiteStar flood in, the grief I feel is so intense & now I realize so very physical! It grabs my chest & my heart. Before tonight, I had no where to put this intense grief. But now you've shown me a simple & very powerful tool... I'm going to write letters ... lots of letters to WhiteStar to tell him how much I love him and how grateful I am to have had him in my life. Journaling my thoughts & feelings ... what a relief! I no longer have to suppress my grief and emotion! I can write letters & journal it. Thank you so very much. Barbara
Barbara you are most welcome, it warms my heart that I was able to help you. Yes, grief sits very strongly in our body. A phrase I often tell my clients is
You can’t think your way out of grief.
Journaling and writing letters to WhiteStar is one of the ways you can move that stuck energy. Dont hold back, and remember your writing doesn’t have to be perfect, write what you feel, not what you think.
I’m not sure if you have ever heard about the book- The body keep scores, Bessel van der Kolk. He goes into a lot of detail, if this is a subject you would like to know more about.
With warmth and healing
Sandra
Hi Sandra-Lynne, I apologize it's taken me so long to respond to your wonderful message. I am in the process of moving while ending a relationship of 8 years. One of those situations that's complicated while being very simple all at the same time. Sad, but very much the right thing to do to end our relationship as a couple. We'll remain friends. We were always able to do that. The break up is actually truly good for both of us as individuals. So... as you can "see" I've been a bit distracted.
But I very much want you to know that your advice has been Huge for me. It continues to be impactful already across a number of areas in my life.
And, I ordered that book by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.. More good stuff there thanks!
Happy Easter to you & yours! Barbara Fawcett